As a work-life mama, life often feels like an endless juggling act. Between Zoom calls, snack requests, laundry piles, and school drop-offs, your “to-do” list seems to breed like rabbits. Finding time for yourself?
But here’s the deal, neglecting “me time” isn’t doing anyone any favors. It leaves you exhausted, frazzled, and wondering if you’ve somehow aged ten years overnight. So, let’s talk about the importance of carving out personal time and how to actually make it happen.
Moms Running on Empty
The problem is clear, moms are chronically burnt out. We’re constantly giving to everyone else. Our kids, partners, employers, friends and pets, until there’s nothing left for ourselves. And yet, society seems to glorify this sacrifice, labeling it as “selfless.” Well, newsflash, running on empty isn’t selfless, it’s unsustainable.
When you’re running on fumes, you’re not showing up as your best self. You snap at your kids over spilled juice, lose patience with your partner, and find yourself struggling to focus on work. Taking time for yourself actually makes you a better mom, partner, and employee because you’re not running on an empty tank.
Creative Ways to Carve Out “Me Time”
So, how do you find “me time” when your schedule feels like an overstuffed suitcase about to burst? It’s all about being intentional, getting creative, and sometimes, thinking outside the box. Here are some practical strategies:
- Schedule It Like a Meeting
Treat “me time” as non-negotiable. Put it on your calendar and guard it fiercely. Even 15 minutes a day can make a difference. Whether it’s a quick yoga session or a nap, journaling, or simply sipping coffee without interruption, block out the time and stick to it. - Wake Up Earlier (or Stay Up a Bit Later)
Yes, I know—you’re already tired. But even 20 minutes of quiet in the morning or evening can feel like a mini vacation. Use this time to read, meditate, or just sit in blissful silence without anyone calling your name. - Create a mom-Only Space
If your home feels like Grand Central Station, carve out a small nook that’s just for you. Maybe it’s a cozy chair with a side table for your tea and favorite book. Or maybe it’s your bedroom closet. Make it your sanctuary. - Leverage Nap Time (or Quiet Time)
If you have younger kids, use their nap time or quiet time to do something for yourself. Resist the urge to tackle chores during this time—the laundry can wait. Your sanity? Not so much. - Outsource and Delegate
Repeat after me, you don’t have to do it all. Hire a cleaner if your budget allows, trade babysitting with a fellow mom, or ask your partner to handle dinner one night a week. Freeing up even a small amount of time can give you the breathing room you need. - Combine Self-Care with Family Time
Get creative! Turn on a family yoga video, take a nature walk, or do a fun craft together. While it’s not strictly “me time,” it’s a step toward filling your cup without adding to your workload. - Say No More Often
Here’s a radical idea, you don’t have to say yes to everything. Decline the PTA bake sale if it’s going to push you over the edge. Skip the playdate if you need a breather. Saying no is an act of self-care. - Use Technology Wisely
Apps like Headspace (for meditation), Calm (for relaxation), or Peloton (for fitness) can turn small pockets of time into meaningful moments of self-care. Bonus: You can do many of these activities while the kids are occupied. - Make it Fun
“Me time” doesn’t have to be serious. Dance around the kitchen to your favorite playlist, binge-watch a guilty pleasure, or take up a quirky hobby like knitting tiny hats for your plants. The goal is to do something that brings you joy. - Involve Your Kids in the Plan
Explain to your kids why your “me time” is important. Create a fun game where they get to be your “self-care helpers,” reminding you to take breaks or giving you a moment to relax.
Taking time for yourself isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. It helps you recharge, reduces stress, and allows you to show up as the best version of yourself. Plus, modeling self-care teaches your kids that it’s okay to prioritize their own well-being, too.
So, mama, here’s your mission, carve out at least 15 minutes of “me time” each day. Start small and stay consistent. Maybe it’s your morning coffee ritual or a quick stroll around the block. The key is consistency. The more you prioritize yourself, the easier it becomes.
And if you’re looking for more tips, tricks, and encouragement, head over to Work-Life Mama. We’ve got plenty of ideas to help you navigate the beautiful chaos of motherhood while keeping your sanity intact.
You’ve got this, mama!